...I wished I remembered where I found this pic so I could credit properly...but I love it...
“I can’t deal with chicks. They always hating on me.”
I once heard a girl say that she didn’t get along with other females and that she would much rather deal with guys because there’s never any competition. She expressed that having females as friends just opened her up to experiencing hate. Part of me understood, but the other part just couldn’t comprehend the whole thought.
I wanted to jump in the conversation to ask her a few things. One, how was she treating other females? Two, where was she meeting these women? Three, what has she done to try to develop those friendships, if anything all? And four, how many of those females has she wronged? But I kept my mouth shut.
I have more male friends than I do female friends and I speak to them regularly. My dudes make me laugh. They keep it real and honest with me at all times. And they call me out on my BS when I need a reality check. There’s no filter with them.
But, there are times when life is just not on the up and up and all I want to do is complain and cry about who wronged me or how things aren’t panning out the way I want them to. Those are times when I don’t need to hear, “Come on Misha, man-up dude!”
I’m a female with emotions that need to be released, dammit! Sometimes, I just need to hear, “Girl, it’s ok, the same thing happened to me. You’ll be all right; you’re still a fab chick. You got this!” That’s where my girls come into play. That’s when having female friends is awesome.
I mean it gets really hard to male bash and complain about what “he” didn’t do or say to your guy friends. **laughs** I’m kidding, of course I don’t male bash! ;-) But that’s where my girls are needed. We have cocktails and swap dating horror stories.
I personally think every Fab Chick should have an arsenal of Fab Chick friends. I feel it’s important to have someone you can relate to, talk about anything with and cry on the shoulders of. I mean, who else can you plot taking over the world fabulously with and gush about the latest must-haves?
Don’t get me wrong. I’ve learned quite a bit about guys from my dudes. But I love the balance of being great friends with males and females. I need them both.
Don’t you? Do you think it’s important for females to have a network of other female friends? Or is a Rolodex filled with guys only just as okay? Could you live without having girlfriends?